Getting to know your "self" conscious

How do you know who you really are? Everything that you experience in your life makes you who you are. So your first best friend, first love, first c.d you bought everything. After all of these things how could you ever know the real you. Most people you can fit in to a category something like "preppy, surfer, jock, gangster". But how could anyone just be one of those? Everyone is not who they seam I'm differently not. I could be a part of everyone of those and more I'm everything! I just wounder if that's only because of all of my own experiences. Is it the same for a person that grew up in a stick household. Someone who never heard a different genera of music or someone who never saw that movie or went to a few party's. Can it really be what you see is what you get? I don't think it can there's so much more to me then anyone could just guess by a glance. I'm all my mistakes, regrets, accomplishes and so are you. So knowing that how could we ever find someone to spend the rest of your life with? You want someone that makes you happy someone that can relate to you. Since everyone is so different and comes from so many different back rounds how could we find one person to be everything your looking for. Your every relationship you've had everything you love about every person that you let get close. How could you find someone that's all of those things you've experienced and everything you haven't? Do you look for all of that? Or do I just want to much is it to much to ask to love everything about the person you going to be with forever? So now we've gone from how do we know who we are to how do we know who anyone is. Personally I don't think there's any way to know anything. It's human nature to lie and with all the humans and all the lies how do you know what anything is.